Q: Sex with the “sense and touch” could become a routine as well with the time. How often should I have sex in order to prevent it from becoming the routine?
A: What makes sex a routine is not the how often you do it but how interesting and spontaneous each sexual experience is. You can have sex once a week or once a day and it can certainly become a routine if you don’t change things up about the way you have it. Sex is a self-exploration journey that doesn’t always go exactly according to the plan. The spontaneous nature of sex inspires to seek more adventure, novelty, mystery and play. Here are few ways how to enrich your sex life by making each experience unique and unpredictable.
1. Surprise effect.
We do love to plan everything, including sex. Sometimes it works just fine, but when it becomes something that you already know to the very end, it feels dull and worn off. Surprising your partner with sex after activity together can be refreshing, exciting and something to look forward again.
Zoe & Alexandra offers several Surprise Scenarios that can help you to start.
Most of those actions are sensual, oriented on seducing each other like if you just met and trying to get each other in bed. Fun and exhilarating!
2. Set yourselves up for a challenge.
Challenge each other with a 12 sided dice that offers 12 different sex positions. Try one position at a time and see how you and your partner like it. You might discover new favorite ways of stimulation. It’s fun and educative in the same time.
3. Play With Your Senses
Sight is one of the senses that offers the most possibilities. Try making eye contact while you are being intimate. This will help to deepen the emotional connection to your partner. Keep the light on so that you can see each other.
To activate your sense of smell, burn some aroma candles that will fill the room not only with sensual mood but also with a soft mysterious light.
Don’t forget to play with your hearing, listen to music, or try talikng dirty to each other.
Zoe & Alexandra has a great suggesting playlist on YouTube for your special night.
To engage your sense of touch, try teasing each other with unique textures, like silk ties, nails, hair or soft feathers. Or try caressing your partner’s body in many different ways, and asking them to pick their favorite touch. You can also try cutting off your senses, like using a blindfold or hand ties.
Plenty of people don’t end up role-playing because they can’t think of a specific fantasy to enact. If you’re new to role-playing, start with something simple and easy. There’s no need to get overly complex your first time! Pick scenarios that you’re already familiar with, or follow some easy role-play scenarios offered in Zoe & Alexandra Romantic Kit. Read each of them and take a moment to visualize you and your boyfriend playing these roles (try reversing the roles in each scenario too!). See which ones grab your attention more than others and act it out!
After you’ve had your role-play session, talk to your boyfriend about how it went. Focus on the things that you liked or would like to explore more.
5. Turn It Into A Game
One of the best ways to liven up your sex life is by being playful with your partner. There are plenty of fun ways to turn sex into a game. Make bets on silly trivia questions or play action dice game. Just threw the dice and let it tell you what you partner must to do to you. It is very provocative and very direct way of getting to know how your partner likes to be warmed up before sexual intercourse.
6. Dress to undress.
Nothing more can be sexually exciting for a man than seen his passionate lover in a seducing outfit. This will trigger his fantasy or maybe will make one of his fantasies come true. Most of man find fishnet stockings very arousing. Or maybe he prefers crotchless panties? Try different looks and see what your partner likes the most. Also going together shopping for intimates can be great starting point of a foreplay.
7. Change the location.
The bedroom may be the most convenient place to participate in sexual activities, but staring at the same spot over and over again is uninspiring. That's why you need to vary the venue and angles. "Sex is about more than just touch; it's about the stimulation of your surroundings," explains Jane Seddon, author of Daily Sex. "Doing it somewhere out of the norm adds an element of fun and makes you feel a little deviant, which is a turn-on for many people."