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Porn for Women: myth or reality?

Updated: Nov 15, 2018


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According the PornHub Yearly review,

28.5 billion people visited their website in 2017, which turns out to be an average of 81 million people per day! With 24.7 billion searches performed on the site in 2017 year, there was clearly a lot to find, as this translates to about 50,000 searches per minute and 800 searches per second.

The question arises here: “Are all those visitors predominantly men?”. You will be surprised, but  as Dr. Laurie Betito, sex therapist and director of the Pornhub Sexual Wellness Center notes







“2017 seems to have been the year where women have come forward to express their desires more openly”.

Once again, the numbers show that women enjoy watching other women. With 2017 being the third year in a row that ‘lesbian’ was the number one searched term worldwide. “Lesbians have been the #1 fantasy of men since the beginning of time. For women that have a soft fantasy or curiosity, lesbian porn allows them to explore that part of their sexuality without risk. Of course, for bi or lesbian women, this category is an obvious choice.” - says Dr. Laurie.

One of the other most popular search on PornHub in 2017 was “Porn for Women”. But what is exactly “porn for women” and how it differs from “porn for men”?

It’s well known that sex starts with the fantasy. Fantasies triggering female brain are different from fantasies that work for men. All mainstream porn (pornotpia) is all about lust and physical gratification, totally lacking in courtship, commitment, durable relationships, or mating effort. It is a world in which women are eager to have sex with strangers, easily sexually aroused, and always orgasmic. Porn videos contain minimal plot development, focusing instead on the sex acts themselves and emphasizing the display of female bodies, especially close-ups of faces (which display sexual arousal), breasts, and genitals. The majority focus almost entirely on sex, routinely representing and non-sexual interpersonal behavior is almost completely excluded. It’s mostly designed for straight male audience and  not that satisfying for most women. This is why we often hear that women don’t like porn. But what about female-friendly porn that sounds more like female erotica than an actual hardcore zoomed in intercourse? What if directors will add some romance to it? Some exciting storyline that makes women’s heartbeat faster when main characters are finally intimately united? Will that be something women want to watch? To answer these questions isn’t easy since there's definitely an element of the debate over female-friendly porn. First we need to attempt to find a concrete answer to the classic Freudian question, "What do women want?" It's been nearly a century and we still haven't figured that one out -- because, erotically speaking and otherwise, women want so very many different things.


Porn for women has a lot  in common with romance novels. This is why it is called “romantopia”.

Although the romance novel has sometimes been called pornography for women, it is really the opposite of male oriented porn. Romances vary dramatically in the extent to which sexual activity is depicted, from not at all to highly explicit. When sex is described, it serves the plot rather than replacing it. The hero discovers in the heroine a focus for his passion, which ties him to her, ensuring his fidelity. Sex scenes depict the heroine's control of the hero, and sexual activity is described subjectively, primarily through the heroine's emotions and responses rather than through visual imagery. But this is only one of the many fantasies and not necessarily that if will positively address to all women. So what are the other fantasies?

The most common women’s fantasies according to the multiple study are:

- Having a threesome;

- Dominance and submission;

- Sex in public;

- Infidelity - watching their husband having sex with another woman/men or making their partner to watch them having sex with another man;

- Voyeurism;

- Sex with a stranger;

- Roleplay;

- Anal sex;

- Group sex;

- Romantic sex;

- Taboo sex;

- Lesbian sex;

- Sex in unusual location.

There are other less common fantasies that we also need to keep in mind when it comes to creating “porn for women”:

- Sex with cartoons, mythical creatures;

- Sex in the cage, jail etc.;

- Gangbang;

- Interracial sex;

- Food sex;

- Violent sex like raping, abusing, beating.

Considering all of the above, the debate continues because there isn't a single answer to this question. There might be some common requests but those things are highly subjective. Every woman has a different definition of "porn for women" based on her own finicky desires. Only time reveals whether the female-friendly porn will ever catch up in popularity with male oriented porn or not.



Resources:

https://www.salon.com/2011/03/22/porn_women/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/ape-girl/201104/what-is-porn-women

https://www.pornhub.com/insights/2017-year-in-review


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Disclaimer: The content material is only informative and academic in nature and shouldn’t be construed as medical recommendation.

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